Violence Against Women

By Tony DeLorger © 2016

In some far off universe, a man may think hitting a woman is acceptable, but here on earth it is far from acceptable, violence never the answer to anything. Many women in such relationships are dis-empowered due to financial circumstance, and feel they must accept this violent behavior in order to survive, and also to protect themselves and perhaps their children from further abuse. But a violent man, even if the violence is exacerbated by alcohol, will always be a risk,and behavioral change requiring long term therapy is all that can be done,and in the interim vulnerable families must be safe and away from that risk, because violence will always escalate, and personal demons, unhappiness and alcoholism can only increase the risk of serious injury or death to innocents.

If a man hits a woman once, regardless of reason, this relationship must change, and all family members separated from the violence, immediately, welfare, the police and family services informed and services activated, and however this separation is done, must be better than risking life and injury, despite financial considerations and problems of daily life. Services exist for these very purposes and should the offender go into therapy, and after a period of recovery is deemed safe to re-establish the family unit, and if the spouse so agrees, then a trial reconciliation can be arranged, with a case worker from family services overseeing.

Should the wife not want to pursue the marriage, then legal protection should be automatically put in place, to negate any further anger of violent behavior against the family. In these circumstances, the innocents must be protected by law, and no family ever held to random by a violent man, for whatever the circumstance. Men in society must take responsibility for their own behavior, and as a husband and father take due care to provide a safe living environment for their family regardless of socio-economic factors.

Women must realize that violence is in no way acceptable and once is enough, their responsibility to themselves and their children undeniable, and their response to it not bound by fear, but care for all parties involved, including the offender who needs professional help.