The Art of Happiness

By Tony DeLorger © 2016

Here is a useful saying-

‘Happiness is not the result of anything, it is a decision.’

Most of us become a slave to the thought that we need something to make us happy. It may be money, the right job, a relationship, the latest TV, power or whatever, but the reality is that none of these things will make us happy. We choose to be happy or not, regardless of the circumstance.

Certain advantages in life may make our life easier, but don’t confuse that with happiness. It is usually some crisis in life, losing someone close, or having a major heath problem that forces us to gain a new perspective about what is really important. This new appreciation of family and loved ones, our health or circumstance can help us to redefine the concept of happiness.

‘Happiness is a feeling of self-assuredness, confidence in your ability to cope and a positive demeanor that is both the result of practice and an appreciation of what we have, regardless of money, status, success or circumstance.’

Always presented as some ‘Mystical Art’, happiness is simply an expression of a positive attitude about life. There is no great secret here, no deep and complex process to attain happiness, just a shift in attitude and an understanding about how the world works.

It is not easy to smile when you are overwhelmed with troubles, and indeed you don’t have to. We human beings are afforded a range of emotions and we should experience them all. But what is important is that there is always light, even in the darkest place. There is always hope, and pain will eventually subside with time. Being positive about your life and your place in it, will pull you through anything that life can deal out. ‘It’s not what happens to us that is important, but how we deal with it’.

Again the concept of balance is important to recognize. The more positive we are the more we will attract positive circumstance. Inversely, the more negative we are the more we will attract that circumstance. It’s a matter of balance and an understanding of the mechanics of our actions.

So don’t try to become happy, if that’s not the way you feel. Endeavor to become positive with everything you think, say and do and happiness will find you, as sure as the sun rises.

When under a shroud of uncertainty and being overwhelmed with negative circumstances, simply accept the challenge and alter your thinking. Negativity got you into this mess, and Positivity will get you out of it, one step at a time. We must learn from our mistakes and at some point admit that our attitudes need to change.

This is a simple truth that can change your life.